I’ve come to the conclusion that I am going to take a very extended hiatus from Anna.
As a quick refresher: she has been loud, inappropriate, obnoxious, conceited, self-absorbed, puerile, embarrassing, pompous, shallow, boastful, condescending, selfish, melodramatic, imposing, spoiled, acting entitled, nosy, judgmental, highly opinionated and outspoken, does things for shock value, has very low fiscal responsibility, uses people, and has no social or internal censor.
There are examples of this throughout my entries, of which I’m too lazy to go searching. But I am pretty sure, after talking to people we’re both close to and people that know just me very well, that I’m making the right decision, since they were thoroughy shocked that I’m even friends with her to begin with, let alone best friends. People I know and love don’t have a very high opinion of her, due to her behavior.
I’m just not sure how to break this to her. I’ve read articles and forums on breaking up with your friend. There was a story in the WSJ about how to do so, and, everyone I’ve spoken with says that I need to let her know instead of just disappearing. It’s hard though. I know that if I wait for her to call, she’ll be gushing about something she’s done, and I’ll never get a word in. And if I try, she’ll invalidate my feelings, and turn it into a pity party of excuses for her. She’ll probably also say she’s going to stay out of my life for a while, as if that will fix things. Sure it will fix not having to deal with her but it won’t fix the root of the problem: She needs to learn how to have scruples, and how to behave appropriately.
Half the people I’ve spoken with say, “Wait till she calls, then bring it up.” The other half thinks I should call her to inform her. And then there are a select few that say I should email her, that way I can get everything out that I need to, without her interrupting. Of course, email is the most informal way of doing so (aside from a text that says “Have a nice life”), but I’m not sure I have the cajones, or the confidence to compose something of this nature without it coming off as accusatory and attacking her. And I absolutely don’t want to say things like “It’s not you, it’s me” because you know what, it IS her. It’s not me being too conservative, or being uptight. It’s not me being boring and quiet. It’s that she’s being completely socially inappropriate and unacceptable.
This is where you guys come in. What do you think I should do, and how should I go about it.? The more advice I get, the more I seem to be able to come to terms with the end of this friendship, but I still don’t know how I should fade away, or completely cut it off.